Random Thoughts

Teddy Kennedy died and i am watching his funeral...i bet aunt mag is watching...what an amazing family these kennedys are...all these beautiful kids with problems just like all of us...alcoholism, drugs, divorce...but held to such a higher standard by all irish american catholics...sort of like Notre Dame University...why do all irish catholics love that school and consider it the ultimate achievement for their progeny...well, none of the kennedy kids went there...and neither did any of mine...and they are all living on to enjoy productive lives never caring if that football team wins or not...perhaps even rooting against them!

A hot sunday before school begins...my mind is overloaded with things to do, things to remember, things to finish, things to begin...one of the busiest weeks of the year for me...

They Fucking Forgot My Birthday

My two oldest children were born in the 70's but grew up in the 80's...I STILL remember when we bought our first VCR and our first rental movie...Trading Places.From then on it was all John Hughes all the time...I think KT and I watched 16 Candles at least 100 times and OMG did we love Some Kind of Wonderful! So, as a tribute to my children and to the genius of John Hughes...to thank him for helping one Mom understand the teenage condition a little more clearly...here are some quotes from his movies to brighten your mood...

'The Breakfast Club' Quotes

"Two hits. Me hittin' you, you hittin' the floor."

"Screws fall out all the time. The world's an imperfect place."

"Does Barry Manilow know you raid his wardrobe?"

"No Dad, what about you? F**k you!"

"So it's sorta social. Demented and sad, but social."

"I wanna be just like you. I figure all I need is a lobotomy and some tights."

"Do I stutter?"

"Could you describe the ruckus, sir?"

"Hey, how come Andrew gets to get up? If he gets up, we'll all get up, it'll be anarchy."

"Face it. You're a neo maxi zoom dweebie, what would you be doing if you weren't out making yourself a better citizen?"

"Dear Mr. Vernon, We accept the fact that we had to sacrifice a whole Saturday in detention for whatever it was we did wrong, but we think you're crazy to make us write an essay telling you who we think we are. You see us as you want to see us: in the simplest terms and the most convenient definitions. But what we found out is that each one of us is a brain ... and an athlete ... and a basket case ... a princess ... and a criminal. Does that answer your question? Sincerely yours, the Breakfast Club."

'Ferris Bueller's Day Off' Quotes
"You killed the car."

"Pardon my French, but Cameron is so tight that if you stuck a lump of coal up his ass, in two weeks you'd have a diamond."

"Drugs?" "Thank you, no, I'm straight." "I meant, are you in here for drugs?" "Why are you here?" "Drugs."

"That's right, I'm Abe Froman." "... the Sausage King of Chicago?"

"Excuse me: if whoever was in this house is still in the house, I'd like you to know that I've just called the police. I'd also like to add that I've got my father's gun and a scorching case of herpes."

"Save Ferris"

"Bueller? ... Bueller? ... Bueller?"

"You hit me. Look don't make me participate in your stupid crap if you don't like the way I do it. You make me get out of bed, you make me come over here. You make me make a phony phone call to Edward Rooney? The man could squash my nuts into oblivion. And-and-and then, and then, you deliberately hurt my feelings."

"Not that I condone fascism, or any 'ism' for that matter. Ism's in my opinion are not good. A person should not believe in an ism, he should believe in himself. I quote John Lennon: 'I don't believe in Beatles, I just believe in me.' Good point there. After all, he was the walrus. I could be the walrus, I'd still have to bum rides off of people. "

"Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it."

"He'll keep calling me, he'll keep calling me until I come over. He'll make me feel guilty. This is uh... This is ridiculous, okay I'll go, I'll go, I'll go, I'll go, I'll go. What - I'll go. S**t."

Grace: "Oh, he's very popular, Ed. The sportos, the motorheads, geeks, sluts, bloods, wasteoids, dweebies, dickheads - they all adore him. They think he's a righteous dude."
Ed Rooney: "That is why I need to show these kids that the example he sets is a first-class ticket to nowhere!"
Grace: "Oh, Ed - you sounded like Dirty Harry just then."
Ed Rooney: "Really? Thanks, Grace."


'Sixteen Candles' Quotes
"I can't believe my grandmother actually felt me up."

"They fucking forgot my birthday."

"I can't believe I gave my panties to a geek."

"What's happenin', hot stuff?"

"I've never bagged a babe."

"By night's end, I predict me and her will interface."

'Some Kind of Wonderful' Quotes
"Break his heart, I'll break your face."

"I'd rather be with someone for the wrong reasons then alone for the right."

"You should consider whether or not you feel you can deliver the kiss that kills."

"You look good wearing my future."

'National Lampoon's Vacation' Quotes
"The Wagon Queen Family Truckster. You think you hate it now, but wait till you drive it."

"Oh God! ... The dog wet on the picnic basket."

'Pretty in Pink' Quotes
"His name is Blane? Oh! That's a major appliance, that's not a name!"

"I know I'm old enough to be his mother, but when the Duck laid that kiss on me last night, I swear my thighs just went up in flames. He must practice on melons or something."

"God, Andie, I'd've died for you!"

"Love's a bitch, Duck. Love's a bitch. "

"Well, that's very nice. I'm glad. Well here's... here's the point, Andie. I'm not particularly concerned with whether or not you like me, because I live to like you and... and I can't like you anymore. So... so when you're feeling real low and... and dirty, and your heart is splattered all over hell, don't look to me to pump you back up 'cause... 'cause... 'cause maybe for the first time in your life I won't be there!"

"You said you couldn't be with someone who didn't believe in you. Well I believed in you. I just didn't believe in myself. I love you. Always."

'Uncle Buck' Quotes
Miles: "You have much more hair in your nose than my Dad."
Buck: "How nice of you to notice."
Miles: "I'm a kid - that's my job."

'Weird Science' Quotes
Wyatt: "Gary?... By the way, why are we wearing bras on our heads?"'
Gary: "Ceremonial."

'Planes, Trains, and Automobiles' Quotes
Neal: "Del, why did you kiss my ear?"
Del: "Why are you holding my hand?"
Neal: "Where's your other hand?"
Del: "Between two pillows."
Neal: "Those aren't pillows!"

Ah the pressure...i have always done what my kids wanted or needed me to do...evidently my girl wants and needs me to do this...and since it was my idea in the first place here i am...doing it!!
Actually i am sitting in my new favorite place to be in the world...at kt's table in florida looking at her, tommy and the magnificent view of placida harbor...this is a magical spot for a person like me to get away from it all...quiet and peaceful with only the computer and cell phone to let the outside world in...and I get to control them...a perfect place for reflection, evaluation and moving forward.
But honestly, i do not enjoy reflection...in my work i always tell my teachers to reflect on their lesson i observed and they get to let me know how things could have been better...and i rate them higher...
But reflecting on my life only makes those sucko moments more sucko...i do not want to remember the casual words that i threw out to teachers, colleagues, friends, children, and husbands that were biting on the pretense of humor, I would like to forget my husband's surgery and the disagreements that resulted, and never do i want to review our last Christmas Eve familial discomfort...another story for another time...
However...reflecting on reflecting...
I have seen my daughter get her act together and do what is necessary for both of them to move on to the next phase...she has a wonderful job, a positive attitude and a garden that grows with her welcoming spirit...Tommy has gained a measure of independence that has allowed him the ability to "do his own thing" while she does hers. Jake has completed a year of college with honors...who knew...Michaeljohn and Jen have settled into a loving marriage that appears to be quite understandable to them...and Billy and I , along with the husband and wife "thingy", have developed a deep friendship with some clear understandings about NCIS and pizza...
My friendship with my brother grows stronger everyday...we still have the most wonderful ability to make each other laugh and cry at the same time. I am enjoying my niece's engagement and helping my sister in law work her way through the stuff that getting a daughter married entails...
As for me...i STILL love my job and the people i work with...i LOVE LOVE LOVE every child that comes across my day...the interactions and the laughter that come with running an elementary school...i STILL hate the paper work and cooking and getting up early and flu shots and medicine...but really...God is good to Suzin and Suzin knows it!

you get a year.....

i have decided i am 'one' with the blog again...i know we have taken a short break or maybe even quit it all together but i have decided to make the effort...again...1. because i enjoy writing 2. because i love my mother and we decided to do this and i want to show her that i am not an anti-commit-tite....at least not completely... and 3. because when she doesn't write i can whip out my guilt gun...(kidding mom...no pressure...besides, only YOU can make YOU feel guilty...wiser bullshit has never been uttered...:)


since it has been a few months i thought that i would catch whoever the hell is reading this up on my life...tom and i have been back from florida since may 8th...and while it was a wonderful respite from all the bullshit that had happened the previous 8 months it was time to come up north to the land of the living...for those of you who are not familiar with our 'hood' in florida suffice it to say that the highest percentage of adults aged 65 and older in the U.S. live in our county...and while there is NO nightlife (not that we have one any more anyway:) there is a fantastic 'daylife'... we live on the gulf of mexico and a 300 acre estuary that is teeming with vegetation, birds and water animals that constantly show their splashes, fins and wings in case you forget the natural beauty one is bathing in...as i became one with nature by paddling on my board and discovering local waterways and finally setting my eyes on a black crowned night heron, tom continued to heal and grow stronger...we got into a nice rhythm of exercising and beaching and rebuilding both each other and more importantly ourselves...well, at least i can speak for myself when i say that i slowly started to reassemble myself again...i was finally sick and tired of being defined, excused and compared to a victim who had dealt with a serious bump in the trajectory of her life...i can remember the exact moment i was DONE...my mother and i were in the car, she was down for a visit, and i was bitching, AGAIN, about how much my life had changed and how helpless i still felt and she basically told me it was time to 'find a place' for it and get over it...i looked at her and told her that she always said,' you get a year to mourn a 'biggie' and then you must move on...' she nodded in agreement and i thought to myself, well then i have 2 more months that i am allowed to bitch, complain and continue to feel sorry for myself...UUGGHHH.....thankfully, my next thought as i gripped onto the f-150 wheel in the parking lot outside bell's was YUCK, fuckshitdamn, did i just actually think that!!!????? like i needed 2 more months to bitch...oh christ...oh it was a moment...one i will never forget....and one that i have my mother to thank for...as well as all the ladies who stuck by me through many other moments during the mess that was my life this past year....you know who you are and you know how much you mean to me....words will never really cut it but i believe that if an autopsy was performed on me after my death the coroner would find my heart filled with all of you....the pheonix has risen from the ashes with all her girls dancing around the fire...thank you all for letting me bitch and moan, cry, scream and sometimes punch and most importantly, helping me remember i could always fly...

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